Relationships of Value
Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2020 5:42 pm
Natalie Shoch
It is amazing the similarities that are possible between two stories that at first appear astronomically different. Gu Changwei’s And The Spring Comes and Mike Newell’s Mona Lisa Smile are set in dramatically different times and settings, yet both films connect to the universal human condition that still persists today. The films follow the stories of two women trying to find their place in the world while staying true to their own beliefs, dreams and values. And The Spring Comes and Mona Lisa Smile delve into the connection between relationship status and personal and social ideas of success.
The movies point to the importance of marriage as a tool to increase one’s ethos in social settings. By following the lives of two unmarried women, the films bring to light the stigmas that are cast upon those who are not in committed legal relationships. This impact has a minor influence of straight men but is especially strong for unmarried women, and dangerous for gay men, as evidenced in the storyline of Hu Jinquan. And The Spring Comes steps outside the traditional straight framing in most stories, and includes the view of how being unmarried impacts those in the LGBTQ community. For Hu Jinquan, his singleness serves to alienate him from those in his community. He is viewed by some as perverted and sick, just because he is not in a traditional relationship. He attempts to strengthen his ethos as a man to be respected by proposing to Wang Cailing, however when this proves unsuccessful, he finds delusional happiness in jail. Mona Lisa Smile also shows the ways marriage can impact a character’s ethos.
The college women at Wellesley see marriage as the next step after university. Getting married is a symbol of entering society as an adult, and introduces them to adult society. Unmarried women are seen as girls, unwanted or too immature to find husbands. Even when marriages fall apart, such as what happened to Betty, the blame escapes the husbands and it falls on the wives to restore their own ethos by fixing the marriage. Betty defies this by leaving her husband after he cheats. This challenges the ethos she built as a conservative, traditional housewife, however she realizes she can not be blamed for the mistakes of another. The end of the film shows her building a new image as she embarks on a career, attempting to build her credibility as a woman to be respected through the rejection of a husband who was not respectful towards her. These films display the myriad of ways marriage as a status symbol can support, and harm one’s positive ethos, through the film’s the characters discover that the respect they hold themselves far outweighs the value other’s put on them.
Both films explore what success means in cultures who emphasize traditional values and customs. The worlds of 1950’s America and 1980’s China connect in their judgement of working women and expectations of a traditional lifestyle. Wang Cailing tries to find her own success as an opera singer, spending all her time teaching and auditioning. Yet despite these career dreams, her worth is measured by those around her in her connection to a man. Rumors fly about her single relationship status, and when visiting her parents, they beg her to settle down and find a husband. Yet the film poignantly displays that it was only after she cast aside the need for a man that she was truly successful. She found happiness by adopting a child and pursuing her dreams, without lowering her standards to be with a man who only wanted her for their own benefit. Mona Lisa Smiles’s storyline is similar. Katherine Watson rejects romantic partners that don’t meet her standards, and even leaves behind society's view of academic and career success when it is clear staying at Wellesley would conflict with her values. It is clear through the films that neither of these women despise the idea of intimate and respectful romantic relationships, in fact it is clear that the desire for a partner forms a noticeable loneliness in their lives. However, they are not willing to compromise on what they know they deserve. They will not get married just out of mutual convenience, or because of lust. These women send the message that it is better to be single than to settle for a relationship that is not full of love, compassion and mutual respect. Though these women pursue paths that are unconventional for the time, they are rewarded in happiness that they created for themselves.
And The Spring Comes and Mona Lisa Smile both delve into the social expectations we force on each other concerning relationships and success. Though they differ in setting, these two films send the same message; One’s respect for oneself is the most important thing in life. Every person has a different view of what success means. The film’s encourage that we hold firm to our values and goals, never subscribing to the beliefs of others.
It is amazing the similarities that are possible between two stories that at first appear astronomically different. Gu Changwei’s And The Spring Comes and Mike Newell’s Mona Lisa Smile are set in dramatically different times and settings, yet both films connect to the universal human condition that still persists today. The films follow the stories of two women trying to find their place in the world while staying true to their own beliefs, dreams and values. And The Spring Comes and Mona Lisa Smile delve into the connection between relationship status and personal and social ideas of success.
The movies point to the importance of marriage as a tool to increase one’s ethos in social settings. By following the lives of two unmarried women, the films bring to light the stigmas that are cast upon those who are not in committed legal relationships. This impact has a minor influence of straight men but is especially strong for unmarried women, and dangerous for gay men, as evidenced in the storyline of Hu Jinquan. And The Spring Comes steps outside the traditional straight framing in most stories, and includes the view of how being unmarried impacts those in the LGBTQ community. For Hu Jinquan, his singleness serves to alienate him from those in his community. He is viewed by some as perverted and sick, just because he is not in a traditional relationship. He attempts to strengthen his ethos as a man to be respected by proposing to Wang Cailing, however when this proves unsuccessful, he finds delusional happiness in jail. Mona Lisa Smile also shows the ways marriage can impact a character’s ethos.
The college women at Wellesley see marriage as the next step after university. Getting married is a symbol of entering society as an adult, and introduces them to adult society. Unmarried women are seen as girls, unwanted or too immature to find husbands. Even when marriages fall apart, such as what happened to Betty, the blame escapes the husbands and it falls on the wives to restore their own ethos by fixing the marriage. Betty defies this by leaving her husband after he cheats. This challenges the ethos she built as a conservative, traditional housewife, however she realizes she can not be blamed for the mistakes of another. The end of the film shows her building a new image as she embarks on a career, attempting to build her credibility as a woman to be respected through the rejection of a husband who was not respectful towards her. These films display the myriad of ways marriage as a status symbol can support, and harm one’s positive ethos, through the film’s the characters discover that the respect they hold themselves far outweighs the value other’s put on them.
Both films explore what success means in cultures who emphasize traditional values and customs. The worlds of 1950’s America and 1980’s China connect in their judgement of working women and expectations of a traditional lifestyle. Wang Cailing tries to find her own success as an opera singer, spending all her time teaching and auditioning. Yet despite these career dreams, her worth is measured by those around her in her connection to a man. Rumors fly about her single relationship status, and when visiting her parents, they beg her to settle down and find a husband. Yet the film poignantly displays that it was only after she cast aside the need for a man that she was truly successful. She found happiness by adopting a child and pursuing her dreams, without lowering her standards to be with a man who only wanted her for their own benefit. Mona Lisa Smiles’s storyline is similar. Katherine Watson rejects romantic partners that don’t meet her standards, and even leaves behind society's view of academic and career success when it is clear staying at Wellesley would conflict with her values. It is clear through the films that neither of these women despise the idea of intimate and respectful romantic relationships, in fact it is clear that the desire for a partner forms a noticeable loneliness in their lives. However, they are not willing to compromise on what they know they deserve. They will not get married just out of mutual convenience, or because of lust. These women send the message that it is better to be single than to settle for a relationship that is not full of love, compassion and mutual respect. Though these women pursue paths that are unconventional for the time, they are rewarded in happiness that they created for themselves.
And The Spring Comes and Mona Lisa Smile both delve into the social expectations we force on each other concerning relationships and success. Though they differ in setting, these two films send the same message; One’s respect for oneself is the most important thing in life. Every person has a different view of what success means. The film’s encourage that we hold firm to our values and goals, never subscribing to the beliefs of others.